They say time heals all. But for the family of Loida Wideman, the pain still lingers.
For her brother, there are still many unanswered questions.
“Why? Why these things happen to her? Which in fact, she’s a very nice person and she doesn’t deserve to be in this situation,” said Junior Gabon, Loida’s brother.
Wideman was last seen on May 13, 2012. She left to go to work at a nursing home in Kapolei and didn’t come home. Her car was found a few days later in Pearl City. But a search of the area turned up cold.
“She was very kind to me. Every time that I needed help from her, she was always there for me,” Gabon said.
Now, her brother is giving back. He’s taking care of her three boys, ages 13, 9, and 7. He’s in the process of legally adopting them.
“Every day I just try to be happy. Try not to let that interfere with my life, but it’s pretty hard ’cause, you know, it’s your mom. She takes care of me and stuff. It’s hard to forget,” said Caliph Wideman, Loida’s son.
It’s hard to forget, especially on Mother’s Day.
“When I think about Mother’s Day, I think about all my friends’ mothers and I just tell them, you know, just be happy with your mother and stuff. And they keep asking me, ‘Why?’ And I tell them, ‘Because I don’t have one,’” Caliph said.
Although the family isn’t actively searching for her, they continue to pray and hope for the best.
“We’re hoping that she’s still out there, she’s still alive. And you know, a lot of people that were missing come out in a few years. So we were thinking that it might be the same case with my sister,” Gabon said.
Anyone with information on Wideman’s whereabouts is asked to call CrimeStoppers at 955-8300.